Thursday, November 29, 2012

Evil

This post has been rattling around in my head for a while, because I still am attempting to deal with it.  Ally has a best friend, let's call her N.  They adore each other and have been  "BFF"s since kindergarden.  Now, years ago, N's mom made what appeared to be a reference to abuse, and I hoped that I was wrong.  But I wasn't.  I was talking to N's mom about a month ago and found out that N was sexually abused when she was 2 years old.  I didn't exactly find out details, though I pieced together sketchy ideas from what she said, enough to disturb me, obviously. 

The evil bastard used it as punishment, and the worst part of it is that he is still out there.  No, I'm sorry--the worst part is that he has 2 daughters of his own, so you know that he is doing it to them too. 

Apparently, a 2 year old is not considered a credible witness and the police really couldn't do anything.  She wasn't actually raped, so I don't believe there was any physical evidence.  Regardless, as N's mom said to me, that makes these small kids the perfect victim.  No one believes them, and even if they do, they aren't considered credible in a court of law.  Now, I have two kids, and I get that they make stuff up.  My girls are incredibly creative when it comes to play and you just wonder where they come up with this stuff.  But no 2 year old would make up what N said happened. 

I was just sick on the phone as N's mom was telling me these things.   She is rightfully angry, even after all this time.  I don't know how to handle it.  I did have a short talk with Ally reinforcing that no one should see or touch her "private area".  (I know we should deal with anatomically correct terms, but we just don't.)  And if they ever did, to tell us immediately.  She wasn't exactly receptive because she wanted to play instead.  The statistics out there are boggling with regards to women being raped, anywhere from 1 in 5 to 1 in 4.  I'm sure that the percentage of children being molested is more than any of us can bear.  (I just attempted to google for that percentage and now I am afraid what horrible things are going to pop up in my browser.)

I think that I have taught my kids to be safe, but I just want to keep them locked in my house forever.